vacant gaze

"Facebook is a neutral tool, it’s what you do with it that matters. You think the “I’m better than everybody!” status updates are evidence of narcissism, and maybe they are, but the deeper pathology exists in those who derive their identities from that online presence while simultaneously retreating from the real world. Show me a man or woman who posts pictures of themselves in bathing suits and I shrug my shoulders. Show me a person who spends more than an hour a day on Facebook and it isn’t their job and I’ll show you a future divorce even if they’re not married yet. Show me a middle aged person who spends >1 hr a day on facebook, and I’ll show you someone who has been to a psychiatrist. It’s not an insult, it is a statement of fact. Each person tries to find ways of affirming themselves; but when it is done through identity and not behavior, it always leads to misery."

The Last Psychiatrist on narcissism. (via somethingchanged)

excellent

(via somethingchanged)